1 Corinthians 4:5

1 Corinthians 4:5 - Therefore judge nothing before the appointed time; wait till the Lord comes. He will bring to light what is hidden in darkness and will expose the motives of men’s hearts. At that time each will receive his praise from God.

There will be a time when we are called on to judge others according to their deeds. That time is not now. Now we are to Love others and always think the best of them. As we look at this verse we see part of the reason why we cannot judge now. When we look at people and judge them we are only seeing actions. All we can see is the outward appearance of things; we cannot see the heart.
There is no way for us to truly know the motive behind someone’s actions. Someone may do something that seems totally messed up from our point of view, but that doesn't necessarily mean it is wrong. With the right heart behind it a wrong action may not be sin.
There will be a day when Christ will return and bring light to everything. Darkness will be chased away and every secret will be revealed. Until then we are not supposed to judge others.
We can however take a look at our own lives. That is where you can truly make a judgement call. You know your heart; you know the motives behind your actions. Are doing things for the right reasons? Are you looking for approval and acceptance from men or God?
If you are always looking to man for approval and acting in a way that will make you look good on the outside you will often miss God’s will. Your focus needs to be on God. He should be the reason we do the things we do. God says that if we seek Him first He will take care of the rest of our lives. Don’t worry about your actions. If your heart is right, then your actions will be also.

Acts 15:8-9

Acts 15:8-9 - God, who knows the heart, showed that He accepted them by giving the Holy Spirit to them, just as He did to us. He made no distinction between us and them, for He purified their hearts by faith.

Whenever we look at someone we make judgements about them. We will form opinion about that person based on what they are wearing, how their hair or makeup is done, how many piercings or tattoos they have or how they are acting. And the list goes on.

Before we have met a person we have made a decision about them in one way or another. This can be dangerous, especially if we are not looking through the eyes of Love.

When Jesus looked at people He saw them with Love and compassion. It didn’t matter what they were going through or had gone through. Their appearance didn’t matter. Jesus Loved them anyway. He looks past the rough exteriors and sees the person inside; He sees the heart.

Unfortunately we are always going to form some sort of opinion about people when we look at them, we can’t change that, but we can change the method by which we form that opinion. We need to train ourselves to see people in Love.

Love God and Love people. That is our command. People are won over by relationship and relationship starts in by seeing people in the right light. Don’t judge people, Love them. Then they will be more likely to listen to what you have to say.